The term "self-confidence" is intriguing. It suggests that confidence is an internal trait, something we should all possess and be able to access if we search deep enough within ourselves. However, the reality is more nuanced. Self-confidence is primarily nurtured during our younger years, through our interactions with others, particularly our parents or primary caregivers, and other influential figures in our lives. When our parents believe in us and encourage us to persevere through challenging situations, where we might otherwise give up, we begin to develop confidence. The more frequently these adults support and encourage us as we venture beyond our comfort zones, the more our confidence grows, ultimately leading to what we refer to as “self-confidence.”

I can still hear the voices of the influential figures from my past who believed in me and motivated me when I was on the verge of giving up. Even today, when faced with difficulties, those same voices guide me through challenges. It's remarkable! At 47 years old, the voice of my high school basketball coach still resonates with me and influences my life decisions. My father's encouraging words and positive feedback keep me focused on my goal and bring a smile to my face as I dare to navigate unfamiliar and intimidating territory.

This realization has significantly impacted my approach to parenting. Each child possesses their unique strengths and weaknesses. As individuals, we tend to gravitate toward what comes easily to us and shy away from more challenging tasks. However, it is our ability as parents to help our children persevere through challenges and overcome obstacles that foster coping skills, resilience, and, eventually, those invaluable nuggets of self-confidence that will guide them in the future.

Teaching our children to respect their body's need for sleep presents one of the initial opportunities we have, as parents, to instill confidence in them. Establishing achievable goals and breaking them down into manageable steps, all while offering encouragement along the way, sets the stage for their personal growth and maturity, as well as improved sleep for the entire family. After all, as we all know, when our children sleep well, so do we.

I'm curious to hear from you all. Whose voice of encouragement and confidence still resonates in your mind? Share your thoughts below.