Now That We’re Back in Routine, What Is Our Focus?

I was listening to a Mel Robbins podcast recently about transformation, and something she said stayed with me. She talked about how we tend to visualize the end result of our goals, the big bang moment.

For parents I work with, that might be imagining your child falling asleep effortlessly every night, or finally sleeping through for 10–12 hours straight.

But Mel shared a perspective that struck me deeply: visualizing only the final outcome can feel so far away that it actually overwhelms us. It’s like standing at the edge of a bridge and wanting to be instantly on the other side. That leap feels impossible.

Instead, she suggests we visualize the steps. The small, sometimes difficult, sometimes messy steps that carry us across.

When I sit down with parents at the start of our work together, there’s almost always a little chuckle of disbelief. The idea that their baby could fall asleep independently, nap well, or sleep through the night feels absurd. The faces say it all: “That’s a dream, not our reality.”

And I get it. When you’re running on fumes and your evenings are swallowed up in endless rocking or feeding, imagining a calm bedtime feels like standing on the far side of that bridge. Too distant to even believe in.

But what if we focused not on the other side, but on each plank underneath our feet?

Maybe tonight’s step is simply practicing a different routine. Maybe tomorrow is helping your baby settle in their crib. Each small win moves us in the direction of progress.

And this is exactly where I come in. My role is to walk with you across the bridge. I hold your hand while you are holding your child's hand. I reflect to you the little bits of progress you may not even notice. I help translate what’s happening, for you and your child, so you can recognize where fine-tuning is needed and what the very next step should look like.

Without that guidance, it’s so easy to throw in the towel and say, “It’s not working.” But with steady support, you don’t just keep walking, you begin to notice the change, to feel the momentum building, and to believe that the other side is not only possible, but closer than you thought.

Think of starting a new job. You’re excited about the promotion, the pay raise, and the shorter commute. But on that first day, the nerves are overwhelming: Where’s the office? Who are my colleagues? Where do I park?

By the end of that day, you’re drained, not because you aren’t capable, but because it’s all so new. By day five, most of the anxiety has faded. The routines are becoming familiar. It's not smooth yet, but you’re finding your rhythm.

The same is true in sleep learning. The beginning feels foreign and uncomfortable, but step by step, a new normal takes shape.

Take a moment to ask yourself:
What “bridge” are you standing at right now?
Instead of staring at the far end, what would it feel like to focus on the very next step?

When it comes to your child’s sleep, transformation is not one giant leap. It’s a series of small, intentional steps. And if it feels a bit uncertain, I'm right here to walk by your side.

My role is to guide you across the bridge, to help you understand where you are, recognize progress along the way, and know what the next step should look like. Together, we make the journey calmer, clearer, and more sustainable.

It’s a simple place to begin, one plank across the bridge, and it will bring you clarity and confidence for the journey ahead.

If bedtime still feels overwhelming, here are three gentle ways to begin:

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Learn: My free workshop The 3 Reasons Your Child Isn’t Sleeping Through the Night gives you clarity and confidence for the first step.
Reach out: If you’d like more personal support, contact me  and we’ll explore what working together could look like. Having steady support by your side makes all the difference.